Resilience- Your secret super power

Dealing with Life’s Curve Balls (and what’s next for Arise & Bloom)

Resilience. I talked about it in my last newsletter. I told you about some really amazing, really resilient women in my life. What I didn’t share was my own story. I didn’t tell you that my own superpower is resilience. I also didn’t realize when I was starting that recent newsletter, how soon and how much I’d need to tap back into it this very year. Right now we have a lot going on here on the homefront. My fiancé Sean and I plan to be married in 2019, and the reason we’re not doing it sooner is because we have a lot going on. A lot of planned personal business—some medical issues we’ve each needed to address for too long and some other life “housekeeping”. I won’t go into all of those details, or over-justify why it makes sense to us to wait, but I will say that planning...Read More
13-The Double Agent Dilemma

The Double Agent Dilemma: Team Player AND Successful Side Hustle?

You’ve worked for years in the same industry; maybe even for the same company. And though for a long time, you’ve known that you’re meant for more, you haven’t been quite sure what the “more” was or what to do about it. Then one day the clouds parted and finally, you knew what it was and even if you still didn’t know the “how” you felt determined to make the “what” happen (and by the way, if the clouds haven’t parted for you, you’re definitely not alone; maybe check this post out first).So here you are, your dream in front of you, a determined spirit, and years of great business skills you can transition into something of your own. For a lot of us, embarking on a new business venture, especially if it’s totally different than the work you’ve been doing, means seeking out new training and education, or new...Read More
11-Imposter Syndrome

Who Do You Think You Are Anyway? How to Shut Down Imposter Syndrome

I first heard the words Imposter Syndrome while listening to the audio version of Presence by Amy Cuddy (which I very much recommend BTW). And it’s funny when you realize that something you’ve been dealing with for years is an actual real “textbook” thing, not just a private neurosis for one. Imposter Syndrome is essentially the idea that you don’t have the skills/talent/education/right to claim the role you have taken on (you may remember I touched on it a bit here). This is especially common in the academic and business world, and especially common for women. We often feel undeserving of the recognition or the attention directed at us when we don’t have the confidence in who we are, what we know, and consequently what we can offer others. As a new coach, I can tell you this has been a major struggle for me, (one that I’ve been fairly...Read More
10-Understanding Your Inner Critic

A Most Influential Relationship: Your Inner Critic

If I asked you what have been the most influential relationships in your life, you might share stories about your grandma who has since passed on, and the lessons she taught you, or a teacher you really admired in high school who took you under their wing. You might share about your best friend since 2nd grade and how even though you’re not related, you’ve learned about true connection and sisterhood. When we try to recall who has been that "Most Influential" person for us, we so rarely choose the people in our lives whose impact has been largely negative, and yet, often those relationships are the ones that have had the most profound effect on us and ultimately had the most significant hand in shaping who we have become. And the one relationship in particular that we all have in common, gets little mention because unlike the people in...Read More